Understanding Consent: A Guide for Young People
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Understanding Consent: A Guide for Young People

Consent is fundamental to all healthy relationships. Learn what it means, why it matters, and how to communicate boundaries effectively.

Written by System Administrator
September 25, 2025
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Adolescent Health Sexual Education Youth Empowerment

What is Consent?

Consent is a clear, voluntary, and ongoing agreement between people to engage in specific activities. It's a fundamental aspect of all healthy relationships, whether they're friendships, romantic relationships, or any other type of interaction.

The FRIES Model of Consent

A helpful way to understand consent is through the FRIES acronym:

Freely Given

Consent must be given without pressure, manipulation, or coercion. This means:

  • No one should feel obligated or forced
  • Power imbalances shouldn't influence the decision
  • People can say no without fear of consequences

Reversible

Anyone can change their mind at any time:

  • Saying yes once doesn't mean yes forever
  • People can withdraw consent at any point
  • Previous agreement doesn't imply future consent

Informed

Everyone involved should have complete information:

  • Understand what they're agreeing to
  • Be aware of potential consequences
  • Not be misled or deceived

Enthusiastic

Consent should be clear and positive:

  • Look for active participation, not passive acceptance
  • "Maybe" or silence is not consent
  • Enthusiastic agreement is the goal

Specific

Consent to one thing doesn't mean consent to everything:

  • Each activity requires separate consent
  • Consent in one context doesn't apply to all contexts
  • Clear communication about boundaries is essential

Communicating Boundaries

Effective boundary communication involves:

  1. Know your boundaries: Understand what you're comfortable with
  2. Be clear and direct: Use clear language without ambiguity
  3. Stay firm: You don't need to justify your boundaries
  4. Respect others' boundaries: Listen when people express their limits

When Someone Doesn't Respect Consent

If someone violates your boundaries or doesn't respect your consent:

  • It's not your fault
  • You have the right to remove yourself from the situation
  • Seek support from trusted adults or counselors
  • Report violations to appropriate authorities

At CASHD, we believe that understanding and practicing consent is essential for building a culture of respect and safety. If you have questions or need support, please reach out to us.